Being a mom is one of the most rewarding roles we can play in our family, but it is also the most demanding! It is a full time job in itself and you can’t clock out at 5pm. Add to that the pressures of a full time job and it can be downright overwhelming. We asked a few of our Circle of Grace members who are working parents what they do to keep their cool while juggling the pressures of parenting, supporting a family, maintaining a healthy relationship with their spouse, and finding time for themselves. These three themes kept bubbling to the surface:
- Quality over Quantity: When it comes to kids, quality time is what really counts. Having a real conversation with your kid as opposed to just being present in the background is what will make an impact at the end of the day so set aside an hour each night, or institute family dinners with no TV or cell phones to make sure you’re really connecting.
- You don’t have to do it all: Many moms hold themselves accountable for doing all the cooking, cleaning, scheduling and car pooling and when they can’t find time to make a homemade dinner after a long day they wind up beating themselves up over it. You don’t have to be superwoman to be a good mom! It’s ok to pick up take out once in a while, or heat up leftovers. Give yourself a break.
- Set Aside Time For You: There is an old adage that says “happy wife, happy life” and how true it is! One thing that we heard over and over again from our Circle of Grace moms is that when they are able to set aside time for themselves to take care of their needs and get centered, it makes them more productive and impactful in every other area of their lives. So put it on your calendar and take 30 minutes to do whatever it is that makes you feel centered – a yoga class, a walk around the block, reading your favorite book – we all deserve time to focus on ourselves!